Recently, a client came to me to help with his grieving process. He was overwhelmed with the emotion of going through a divorce and needed help dealing and processing his feelings of despair and sadness.
Grief can manifest in many ways, and at times feels like a kind of insanity as the waves of emotion become overwhelming. Firstly, remember that these feelings are transient. The word emotion includes the word ‘motion’. Our feelings move and shift, often in a matter of hours and we can observe their process and take heart that it does not need to be a permanent state.
Secondly, there are methods to help the speed the process. This is where TAT is so powerful. TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique) combines holding acupressure points on your head and going through a series of statements (The Steps of TAT). The statements include an intention for safe and easy healing and a series of 9 steps created to help you de-identify with traumas, emotions and beliefs that have been affecting you since the moment they happened. The healing typically results in better mental, emotional and physical health.
Back to my client! I took him though the TAT process and he held his recent trauma in his mind. He found that the intensity of his pain and angst reduced at each statement, and realised that he had never considered that he had the choice to forgive his ex-partner. This was a huge revelation to him. Forgiveness can feel like we are condoning behaviour. But it releases us from the attachment to the pain of the past. And that’s where it should stay; in the past.
My client left me feeling lighter and free than he had felt for years (his words). He looked younger and had more colour in his face.
Grief moves and shifts. It can be intense one moment and recede the next. It can feel like your head will never think about anything else. It can be physically painful, as the traumas and hurt are released where they are stored in our bodies. But, it does move and it does change.
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